Can you be in love with two people at the same time?
Someone asked me this question about a week ago and I gave them a short answer that didn't really answer their question, it just made more. But I've been thinking about it, and there isn't really a yes or no answer for the question. Unless you've ever been in the same situation you have no idea?
There is so many different way's to categorise love as it is. You love your family, you love your friends, and you love the one you love (your partner, the one you're with). And you don't love your family the way you love your partner do you? That would just be kinda creepy, and loving someone as a friend is again different to loving the person you're with, you don't want to sleep with your friends do you? Well that does happen, but usually when you're not truly in love with one person. But that's a whole different subject that I'm not delving into.
So back to the initial question; Can you be in love with two people at the same time?
Short answer is yes if you're not categorising the type of love.
Long answer is still yes, even when you are categorising what type of love. Family love, of course you love more than one member of your family.
Loving your friends, as long as you have more than one, you will love more than one of them. That's nice and obvious.
Then there is the one that you just love for being them. But I do believe you can love someone else in the same way, now crush's don't count, nor does just thinking someone is pretty, though how do you get to fall in love with someone else when you're already so in love with someone else? Now you may think about being unfaithful as such is a way, like having an affair, if you're doing that though you obviously don't love the person you're hurting as much as you think you do, or you would not be doing it. Simple as. So this doesn't count as such.
There is other ways to fall in love with someone else why you're in love. Maybe it'll be someone you meet through work, maybe just a friend of a friend, but if you were to take the time to get to know them properly, and find out who they are, and if they are the type of person you could fall in love with, and they are attractive, your emotions will allow for this ti happen.
Then there is the whole still being in love with someone from your past relationships, just an ex, but people say you never get over your first true love, and on some levels you will always love them, but that love wouldn't be as strong as the person you love now, but yes you do therefore still love two people at once.
I can probably give some more options but this gives you the picture.
Now I don't expect any of you to agree with this, but it is what I believe.
I think one of the biggest problems comes from how we define love. We have this one blanket-word for several different things.
ReplyDeleteAs you said, you love your partner, in a different way than how you love your friends, and again another different way for how you love your family, and yet we only have one word. I'm sure you could argue there are plenty of other different types of love too.
However, we have started to use different ways to define different types of love, and being "in love" with someone is different to "loving" someone.
You can definitely love more than one person. As for whether you could be "in love" with more than one person, I don't know.
It's difficult because love can't be measured, it's a personal thing that means whatever you want it to.
See, all that typing and I have established precisely nothing at all. Too difficult.
Exactly. It took me over a week to come up with that answer, and that was just how I felt at the end of it.
ReplyDeleteIt's a constant circle of possible answers if you can't decide if it's possible to feel either or.